For as long as I can remember, I’ve been drawn to people – to the conversations that happen when someone finally says what they’ve been carrying for months. I believe we don’t stop growing once we become adults.
As I see it, the work is to stay awake to our lives: to notice the stories we carry, the patterns that shape us, the wisdom of the body, and the parts of ourselves asking for our attention. This kind of work doesn’t ask us to become someone else. It brings us closer to what we value most.
Based in Johannesburg, I work with individuals, couples, groups, teams and organisations who are willing to slow down, pay attention, and do the inner work that creates lasting change.
How I Got Here
My path wasn’t linear. I started with a BCom in Economics, but kept coming back to questions about human motivation and growth, so I went back to school and completed my MA in Psychology at Wits in 2015, specialising in narrative and developmental psychology.
The real learning happened outside the classroom: over 15 years studying the Enneagram, two years of Family Constellations training with Gui Barcellos, and Levels 1 and 2 of Internal Family Systems (IFS). Each taught me the same thing: we’re more complex and more whole than we often realise.
How I Work
My approach is grounded in the body. Your work life, relationships and inner world are all connected, so when one area shifts, the others tend to follow. I draw on:
The Enneagram – why we do what we do, our gifts and our blind spots.
Internal Family Systems – working with our inner parts instead of fighting them.
Family Constellations – how family patterns show up in our relationships and choices.
Tiny Habits – making change sustainable by working with how our brains function.
Integral theory and spiral dynamics – a bigger picture of how we develop.
The frameworks serve the person, not the other way around.
What This Looks Like
Individually, we might explore why you keep hitting the same wall in relationships, what’s driving your perfectionism, or how to decide in line with who you’re becoming. With teams, we look at the human dynamics that support or sabotage good work: difficult conversations, psychological safety, personality differences that complement rather than clash.
Whoever I’m working with, the question is the same: what wants to shift here, and how can we create the conditions for that?
Why This Matters
As one client shared:
“Ryan’s sharing of the Enneagram had such a profound impact on the way I understand and relate to people, and has really helped me live more compassionately in the world. I really grasped, in a very concrete way, how completely differently other people see and experience the world and their place within it. And it’s enabled me to really let go of my expectations of how interactions should go.” — Isabel
For me, this work has never been about becoming someone else. It’s about becoming more fully ourselves.
Training & Qualifications
- MA in Psychology (University of the Witwatersrand)
- BCom in Economics (University of South Africa)
- Internal Family Systems (IFS) – Level 1 & Level 2
- Integrative Enneagram Accredited Practitioner
- Two-year Family Constellations training with Gui Barcellos
- Training in somatic approaches
- Tiny Habits Coach Certification (BJ Fogg)
I’m committed to doing my own work. I continue to learn, seek supervision, and stay curious about my own blind spots.