Deb Dana, who pioneered Polyvagal theory says, “The autonomic nervous system is as the heart of our lived experience. We are always engaged with the the nervous system, our own or other people’s”
The goal is to befriend the nervous system, bring curiosity and attention to how our system responds to life around us. Its not to achieve some kind of perfect, never ending calm. Autonomic state shifts are a normal and expected response to the challenges of everyday life. The problem isn’t that we loose our sense of safety, but that we are often pulled out of the safety and can’t find our way back. If you think about it, its a really big deal because we’ve normalised chronic patterns of stress, sometimes entirely forgetting what safe enough feels like.
What if you could train yourself to be in a more calm connected state in your ordinary day ? Imagine how you would experience life differently. What opportunities might you be able to follow more easily ? How might you respond to people differently ?
When your nervous system is running a protective state, the world tends to look less friendly and options are limited. We lose our innate capacities for creativity, compassion, courage, curiosity and others. Instead becoming locked into patterns mostly born of the past. Sometimes there is legitimate danger and we can be thankful for the intelligence of our nervous system. More often than not there is no threat and we have picked up cues (unknowingly) from our environment or people that trigger these protective states.
The work we will do in these 3 weeks is to gently bring attention to these patterns, learning more about what it is that triggers us and how to come back from these responses in more effective ways.
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